I Don’t Want Kids, Get Over It!

It’s no secret to my family and friends that I don’t want children.  I worked as a nanny for almost 10 years and I’m sure that has a lot to do with my decision.  I also grew up a bit fast; helping my mom take care of my brother and sister when I was just a kid, maybe that has a little to do with it as well.

Last week I went to visit a friend who is married and has two kids of her own.  The five of us went to meet her daughters teacher at an open house type of event.  As I stood in the middle of this second grade classroom; colorful artwork hung on the walls, mini desks all in a row and a lively playground right out back; it started to really sink in.  I began looking around at all of the “happy” families, watching the children run a muck and trying so hard not to notice the “adults” arguing over what they were gonna have for dinner that night.  I suddenly realized that THIS was my definition of a nightmare.

I’ve always found it to be pretty foreign when I hear people say the only thing they’ve ever wanted in life is to have a family.  My mom for example, she knew from a very young age that she had always wanted to be a mother.  I have come across these people several times in my travels; people that say they have always had a yearning to be a parent, to have a family.  What does that feel like exactly?  Am I missing something here?  Did that chromosome skip a generation?  I literally can not comprehend.  I love my cat to death, is that what this feeling you people speak of is like?

He loves me just as much, I promise.

A friend once asked my stance on children and I told him that I don’t want them.  He then proceeded to call me SELFISH.  Wait, did you just call ME selfish because I DON’T want to bring an innocent child into this messed up world?!?!  This comment has always stuck with me because to be honest, I believe quite the opposite.  I believe having a baby is a pretty selfish act.

So the next time you ask me if I want kids and I answer with a very firm “No!”  Please don’t go on a rant about how I am still young, and how I’ll change my mind one day.  I never asked for your opinion.

Update: it is now 2022 and I still don’t want kids!

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Song of the day: Stay Together For The Kids by Blink-182

Published by Hardly Grown Up

Just trying to figure out this so called "adulthood."

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